What's your love language?

The concept of 5 love languages was explored by author Gary Chapman in the 1992 book "The 5 love languages". In his book, Chapman describes them as being words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts.

It is important to know our personal communication style, however, sometimes these generalizations may seem superficial. The truth is, relationships are very complex because people are complex.

Love languages may give us some insight into how to be a better partner, but even Floyd Wesley on the Curiosity Matters Podcast recently stated that we may do better not to hold our partner to rigid standards based on generalizations. Love languages are a tool we may use for introspection. Paired with deeper self development methods, we may master all relationships by first mastering our selves.

Here's more detailed information about The 5 Love Languages

Words of Affirmation

"Words of affirmation" express affection using words, praise, or appreciation. Kind words, encouragement, uplifting quotes, love notes, and cute text messages are all examples of affirmations. You can make a person's day by complimenting them or pointing out what they do well.

Quality Time

Quality time means undivided attention. A person who identifies quality time as their love language feel loved when others are present and focused when together. They prefer social interaction and personal engagement. They appreciate making eye contact, and listening actively.

For these people, it is about making the most of the moments spent together.

Physical Touch

A person who loves physical touch feels love through physical affection. Not just sex either. They love when their partner performs hand holding, cuddling, or massages at the end of a long day. This person may love a Netflix and chill date night, or anything that involves just being close to one another.

Acts of Service

Acts of service can be kind things you do for a loved one that makes them feel loved and appreciated. These can be things like:

• Cleaning dishes

• Household chores

• Putting gas in the car

For people who prefer acts of service as their love language may appreciate the little things more. Its all about practical things that make their day easier.

Receiving Gifts

For someone who identifies with this love language, exchanging gifts indicates love and affection. It is not about the material item or the value of the gift. For these types of people, it's the thought and effort that goes into it.

When you pick out a gift specifically for them, it shows you are attentive and caring. People with this as their love language will often remember gifts they are given or minute details about the occasion where they received it.

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For couples, learning our own, and the love language of our partner is a fun way to increase intimacy, connection, and affection. Many other relationships may also benefit as well. Learning our love language may help us achieve deeper introspection, and open our eyes to valued perspectives.!